Thursday, March 20, 2008

It seems like there will be definite 2nd dates with both HOTNESS and Original Sporty, but I've learned that nothing in dating is definite. In the meantime, I'm going around with this giddy feeling, all happy grin-like, thinking of these 2 great guys.

One of them has been texting, the other emailing. OS has sent really fun emails, in part telling me that he thinks I'm awesome. While flattering, this has also triggered some insecurity. Don't get me wrong. If you've been reading this here blog for a while, you know I think I'm a catch! But you may have also realized that hot, successful, great-seeming dudes bring out my insecurities. As in, but if he's so great, and if he can have anyone, why me?

Basically, I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. I'm waiting for the 2nd dates to happen, for them to not go as well, and for the dudes to stop being so attentive. Mostly I feel this way with OS. Somehow I feel like I've tricked him into thinking I'm way awesomer than I am. He just seems so perfect. He's really attractive (Best Friend and LV have seen pics and they agree!), he's not a serial-dater, and in fact seems to be a serial-relationship dude, he wants kids within the next few years, he has pets, he has a good job, he's close with his family. He just seems like a great guy.

So my head's going a bit like: He'll find out I'm not into outdoorsy sports like he is, and he'll get bored of me. He'll realize we don't have that much in common, and he'll stop finding me so interesting. He'll still think I'm funny, because, duh, but we'll run out of things to talk about. The connection just won't be there. Blah, blah, blah.

If I had to choose right this second, I'd probably choose OS. With Hotness, at the moment, it's more physical. Which isn't to say he's not a good guy, just that he's less my usual type. OS just seems like a dream--he has so many of the things that I'm looking for. Don't get me wrong, though--I want to keep dating both of them for as long as I can.

I just keep thinking that won't be very long...

--Cute Jewess


mimi of sexagenarian and the city said...

as i remember, your guys always come in twosies....

Stop Worrying.

project confidence and happiness, and they'll both go for you, and you'll have a good time with both.

i know that's fairly obvious and superficial advice, but i used to give it to myself all the time before dates, and it really does work. and after i had heard stories from guys about the *other* women they'd met on jdate and match, i began to see that i *was* a catch!

obviously, you are too.
enjoy your good luck and good dates.


jgo said...

How come youre so into him despite all these differences? Because you dont want to align perfectly with all interests with someone you date. If you dont care, why are you so convinced he will care?

Cute Jewess said...

Well I never said it was rational :-) It's true, I like being with someone who has some different interests--and hopefully I can learn from them. But still, I do worry that we won't have enough in common. We'll see!

Single Girl said...

I just want to second what mimi said. I couldn't have said it better myself! Nothing is more attractive to a guy than confidence!

Loverville said...

Think of it this way: you're worried about THEM not liking YOU... you also need to give it time to see how much YOU really like THEM as well!

Not just the differences you mention (eg, the outdoorsy stuff) - but just general personality-wise.

As always -- one day at a time -- I know it's hard, but try not to have any expectations after just one date!