Friday, September 14, 2007

Catching up!
The brief low-down:
  • SS: For those who don't remember, I liked him months ago, when we went on a few dates. He was just out of a really dysfunctional long-term relationship. He freaked out. We lost touch.
  • Jackpot: I met him at a party months ago. I considered him "so my type." We emailed a bit but never cemented a date down, despite his professed interest.
  • Hottie1: Months ago, I emailed a bit with this guy on Jdate--he remains to this day one of the best-looking guys I've corresponded with. I wrote this on the blog: "I'm still a bit scared of Hottie1. He's just so typically good-looking. AND also smart, funny, and--it seems--nice. He's the kind of guy I'd imagine has a line of women trailing after him at all times. I'm going to have to go for the big guns--my own intelligence and sense of humor--to distinguish myself among what must be a very large group of ladies." Hottie1 and I talked on the phone and had a great conversation. He called me again a few days later and left a message. I called him back and left a message. I never heard from him again. I emailed him once afterwards to try and get back in touch, with no response.

Fast forward months and months, and they all converge again.

SS: Lordy is he screwed up. And he seems to associate exclusively with people who are even more screwed up than he is. As Loverville said, "You're so right not to get involved with him!" Not that it was my choice, mind you. But...yeah.

SS and I had a lovely drinks time together. Can't call it a "date" because we're friends now, which is as it should be. He's a great guy at heart--and I enjoy being around him. But whew, issues! Still, to finally have some closure on someone I really liked...that feels good.

Jackpot: Ah, small town New York. I ran into him on the street. We started emailing again, and JP expressed his attraction to me: "You look delicious." We've got a date set for next week. He is a big old flake, though, and so I will only believe it when I see him in front of me, alongside a big old cocktail, thank you very much.

Hottie1: Out of the blue, I figured I'd give it one more try. I sent H1 one of my "confident emails," and he wrote back that he'd love to meet for a drink. I've been talking to Loverville about this a bit. He stokes my insecurities. Best Friend knows more than anyone what I was like as a teenager. I was not cute. I was not popular with the gents. I was smart and hilarious (duh). (And Best Friend, don't even challenge me on the hilarious part. You were there laughing!!) So anyway, the truth is that really good-looking guys intimidate the hell out of me. Luckily for me, Hottie1 seems to value smarts and wit as much as physical appearance--so point in my favor. But I'm going to have to work on feeling as cute as possible to overcome insecurity in the face of a hot guy. We've got a date set for next week. So far, he doesn't seem like he's going to vanish...but with these Jguys, you just never know.

I'm seeing Lanky tonight. I've forgotten about this date about twelve times now. I do like him, though. I'm just not sure how much. So we'll see!

--Cute Jewess


Best Friend said...


everyone is insecure. Even the good looking people. Just remember that, and that you're good looking as well. As soon as you give voice to those high school demons, you give them power.

And our high school sucked. You were cute, you just didn't realize it.

And looks can do only one thing, and that's bring people to you. Everything else is what keeps them with you. So also notice how many good looking people are alone as well....

Anonymous said...

just curious, why were you so intent on pursuing Hottie? After an unreturned call and email why would you keep trying?

Cute Jewess said...

That's a good question. I didn't at the time, months ago.

But he's hot, smart, funny, and we share a similar background. We had a good phone conversation several months ago. He seemed (at the time) considerate and decent. Why not go on a date with him? If he's a jerk, I won't worry about seeing him again. At this point, he seems interested. And it's not like there are a lot of other guys right now that I've got to fit in my schedule.

Samantha said...

I agree with what Best Friend said, everyone is insecure or was at some point. It's definitely good to remember that. Anyways looking forward to hearing about the dates and I'm glad that you and SS reached a point where you can be friends.

Heather said...

woah, i donno how you keep this all straight! lol

Fool's Gold said...

You best keep us posted on what is going on with these three! Who? Where? When? What? How?

Details, babe, details.

(And oh, may I add, despite my ferociously handsome features and physique, you would never feel insecure around me, because I worship your mind and personality.)