Monday, August 20, 2007

If you haven't yet read the dirt from this weekend, scroll down :) But right now, I've got to chat about Car Guy.

I've mentioned endlessly before that I'm an email/text girl rather than a phone girl. But Car Guy has started calling. To chat. About stuff I don't care about. When I told Loverville about one of our conversations, she emailed "Omg... [CG] thinks you're his girlfriend now, and thinks he can talk to you about these inane things!!! Hah!"

So yes, Big Smile is still in the lead. But until--if ever--we're exclusive, I want to keep actively dating other guys. I don't want to get too into BS--to focus too much of my attention on him. Because what if it doesn't work out? It's still so early. Basically, I guess I'm trying to protect myself even just a bit. Plus, I do enjoy hanging out with Car Guy. Quite a lot, actually. So we'll see if that enjoyment continues.

In the meantime, though, I can't wait to see BS again.

So...well...I guess there's not much protecting myself after all.

--Cute Jewess


jgo said...

So CJ likes chatting it up with her gfs but not the dudes?

I'm curious... what kinds of things fall into the inane category for you?


Cute Jewess said...

I usually chat w/ my gfs on email and text as well. I spoke on the phone w/ BF this wkend, but that's it.

As to what's inane? I will leave that to your imagination.

Molly said...

My advice (not that you need it or even want it) focus on the guy you are sleeping with.... I know you are not exclusive, but are you honestly ok with seeing him trolling jdate while having sex with you? And if he is ok with you doing that than maybe you are a good match!

Perhaps I am projecting but I would never be ok with that kind of behavior.

walt said...

So, it now seems like you have two very live ones. I'm curious - how are you going to do this? Like, who gets you on Saturday night? Then, if you tell the other one that you're busy on Saturday night, does he get a bad attitude?

Also, do you think BS will assume you're going to be exclusive, now that you've slept with him?

I'm really just curious, because the juggling thing is something I've never been able to pull off very successfully myself.

Cute Jewess said...

When it comes to dating, never assume. I highly doubt BS thinks we're automatically exclusive after 3 dates. I don't even know if he wants to be. If anything, right now I'm wondering if I'm more into him than he is into me. I don't know the answer to that.

Also, you're assuming both dudes will want to hang out with me Saturday night. Can't assume that either.

I'm very much a play-as-it-happens kind of gal. I'm busy this Sat. night anyway, no matter what. Also, BS will be out of town. So, for now, why worry about it?

jgo said...

If you already have a date on saturday night when someone else asks you out, the correct response is "I have plans with some friends."

walt said...

I sometimes forget that "the rules" of play are different in NYC! Sounds like you have it all under control. Good luck.

Fool's Gold said...

"I highly doubt BS thinks we're automatically exclusive after 3 dates." - Cute Jewess

But does this mean that you would date other men even after sleeping with him, or that you would even sleep with two men simultaneously (not actually simultaneously; although if you'd like to answer that as well, I'm sure we'd all like to know! 8$

Cute Jewess said...

Yes, I would date other men after sleeping with BS. That's what "not exclusive" means. But if he wanted to have the "exclusivity" talk, I would be open to the idea. I like him :-)

Would I sleep with other guys in the meantime? I don't know because the situation hasn't happened yet.

I say this lots when I get comment "What if" questions--I'm not a what-if gal. I need to be in the moment in order to know how I'll react.

Santandar said...

You still never answered the two-for-one question.. Salacious minds want to know...

Financial Artist said...

Call me old fashioned, but I always prefered "In the Moment Gal" to "What-if Gal."

Cute Jewess said...

Santandar, do you fantasize about one girl and two dudes? I, for one, do not.

I mean, who knows about "someday." But "this day" is a no.