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Friday, May 04, 2007

I'm feeling sad about SS, with whom there were more developments last night.

I have choices to make, and I'm not sure what I'm going to do.

I hesitate to write about it here for one reason only: I do not want your advice on this one.

The nature of a blog--especially a dating blog--is that it's a breeding ground for what's come to be known in the blogosphere as "assvice" (and I've always hated the term, by the way, because of the good intentions behind it). This is unasked-for advice that readers want to give you because they become invested in your story, have likely had similiar experiences, and feel they can help you. I know it's well-meaning, and I appreciate that. Sometimes it helps me. Sometimes it doesn't.

Right now it's just not wanted.

You will likely have an opinion of what I should do with SS. But this is a decision I would very much like to make on my own. I can also imagine posting the story and then getting well-meaning comments such as "I know you don't want to hear this, but...." Yeah, I don't want that either. If I were to make the decision, and write about it afterwards? And you'd want to tell me I did the wrong thing? Nope. Don't want to hear that either. Even a general "You should" of any kind...I'm not in the mood for right now.

So, while I'm thinking recent events over, I'll see what happens. Maybe SS will just be out of the picture.

Oh, and do I want emails asking "off the record" what happened? I do not. Please don't be offended if you email along those lines and I do not answer, because I won't.

So there. A very maddening post to read, I am certain. Why write at all? Because I'm feeling sad. And sometimes when I feel sad, writing here makes me feel better. That would be the only thing I'm looking for right now.

--Cute Jewess

13 comments:

Loverville said...

On that note: feel better!

This has NOTHING to do with dating -- but it's just so damned cute, it's bound to put a smile on your face:

www.welcometothedoghouse.net

Tbone said...

I have learned that no matter what advice people give me, even when I ask for it...I do what I am gonna do, regardless of what they advise...you do what you need to do, it is all about you and no one else.

jgo said...

It seems that most of your commenters like you so Im guessing we will support whatever decision you make. You gonna tell us eventually?

Eve said...

i agree with tbone. just do what you need to do. obviously your readers will love to hear about the ss debacle, but do what you need to do.

Cute Jewess said...

LV--cute, yes, but also a wittle bit cwazy...

Tbone, jgo, eve--THANKS!! That's very nice of you. Will I tell eventually? I don't know yet--but probably, knowing me. I have to see where this all goes first.

Heather said...

Hugs! And good luck with whatever decision you make! I'm sure ultimately you will do what is right for YOU, and that's all that is important!! :)

acaligurl said...

xoxo from acg

e.b. said...

Atta girl - it is your blog do with it what you want!

Have a great weekend.

spicy hebrew national said...

Just remember to go with your gut. You are a smart, intelligent, strong woman and deep down you know what you have to do.
Good luck with your decision. Hope it all works out for the best.

jeremy said...

So there I was reading along and started digging into my pocket to find my two cents to add, but guess what? I didn't have two cents so no advice for you!

Hope your weekend starts to look up real soon.

a&v said...

I've been there (though not at my current blog) and totally understand.

Jody said...

Kind of hard to give advice even if we wanted to do so since we don't even know what's going on! I guess that was your intention...but whatever, I'll keep reading it anyway...

Anonymous said...

It is your life, and you need to do what you have to in order to avoid regrets later on. We've all been in the position of having a little voice in our head scream about a guy, and needing to ignore it for a little while because we like him so much and need to prove to ourselves that the situation really could not be solved. It is a really tough situation, and I wish you the best of luck.

Take care,
Jaclyn